The avoidance manoeuvre is easy. Don't go and you don't feel bad but you do feel bad. In fact you feel doubly bab. One time bad because you didn't go and two times bad because if you had gone you would have been feeling bad because you had mad a really big effort to get there and sill you were feeling awful. This could be endless if you extrapolate further excuses might even make double or treble digits in the excuse stakes. You might even find a thousand reasons. But you know as well as I do excuses are just a lie you invent to make yourself feel good. IF THAT WERE TRUE WHY DO YOU FEEL SO AWFUL?
Yep you are even telling yourself lies to cover for the real reasons those being you are lonely and you are depressed. The hardest thing is recognising it. Then the other thing is doing something about it. If you have read this far we'll done. Yes you deserve a medal, no truly if you are seeking help to have stuck it this far and have me pointing out this stuff you are either a counsellor or you are depressed and lonely and are seeking help.